Domestic abuse is not just physical violence. Do you recognise any of the signs below either in your relationship, or that of a friend, a workmate or family member?
- Prevented from seeing family and friends
- Prevented from using a phone, or phone being destroyed
- Threats to kill you, themselves, pets, children
- Threats to take children away or that they will be taken away
- Being choked or strangled
- Controlling your behaviour and life (e.g. dress, being timed when going out, being unable to work or be in education)
- Threats to find you if you leave, or that they can't live without you
- Being threatened with weapons (whether knives, guns or household items that are used as weapons)
- Not being allowed to rest or sleep properly
- Being forced or coerced into having sex or being raped
- Playing mind games
- Making you feel 'mad' or 'bad'
- Having to account in detail for money spent
- Being called humiliating names
Domestic abuse can take many forms and people who are victims of it can be abused in any number of ways - only a few are highlighted above.
For many victims, leaving an abusive and controlling relationship can be a risky and dangerous time. Victims do not have to end their relationship or leave their home to ring a helpline for support and to talk things over.
Don't be a bystander
Together with the West Lancashire Liberty Centre and Edge Hill Students Union, we have developed a social media campaign, 'Don't be a bystander'. The campaign aims to help encourage people who think that a friend, relative or colleague who is suffering from domestic violence, to get support, advice or assistance.
You can get involved and help raise awareness by retweeting messages from @libertycentre1 and @westlancsbc. You can also find out more by visiting Liberty Centre website (external link).
Where to get help
If you want any support or information about domestic violence, you can contact:
- The Liberty Centre (external link) - 0808 100 3062: 24 hour freephone helpline
- Women's Aid (external link) - 0808 2000 247: the national women's refuge helpline
- Men's Advice Line - 0808 801 0327: advice and support for men in abusive relationships
- National Domestic Violence Helpline (external link) - 0808 2000 247: 24 hour helpline
- GALOP (external link) - 0300 999 5428 or 0800 999 5428, email: firstname.lastname@example.org: advice and support For people who have experienced biphobia, homophobia, transphobia, sexual violence or domestic abuse.
- Police (external link) - 999
- Samaritans (external link) - 0345 909 090
- Respect helpline (external link) - 0845 122 8609: an information and advice line for people who are abusive towards their partners
- Sanctuary Scheme
For children affected by domestic abuse
- The Hide Out (external link) - website created by Women's Aid giving support to children and young people affected by domestic violence
- NSPCC (external link) - Help and advice for children and young people and for adults concerned about a child
Lancashire Domestic Abuse Strategy
A lot of excellent work continues to take place in West Lancashire to support families and address the complex issues that domestic violence presents. The Community Safety Partnership (CSP) works very closely with the Police and Liberty Centre to tackle domestic abuse and support domestic abuse victims.